Wait…WHAT? One of the things that tickles me the most about living and shopping overseas is all the griping about the BX. The complaint that we’ll all be “wearing the same thing” or “But I’ll look like everybody else!”. I’ve decided that it’s about time that I weigh in on this subject. Perhaps there’s actually another way to approach this dilemma.
To be kind, I say it’s baloney! Well, in some senses, anyway. I say all of this with love because, guess what? I used to think this way as well. It’s contagious group think that gets us into this mess. Here’s how my thinking has evolved over the years. It should be noted that I DO recognize that specialty sizes are a problem, as they are everywhere but that issue is most certainly amplified by our limit of choices.
Sure, if you’re going to a formal event and you have to buy a dress, it IS possible that you’ll see someone else there wearing the same thing…but that doesn’t necessarily mean that’s wrong? You both can have a good laugh over the fact that you two obviously have good taste.
Several years ago, I had gone home over the summer and found an awesome dress on clearance at Ann Taylor. Because I knew it wasn’t the hottest find out there, I was positive that no one else on island would have it. So there I was at the Fall welcome aboard coffee when in walked my dress on a blonde with long hair. We both had a good laugh over it and THAT, my friends, was the turning point for me.
Yes, it IS a little different than in the states because there our selections are diluted by the number of options available, but the fact remains they are all mass produced products. In my opinion, unless you are making your own clothes, or shopping consignment boutiques, you’re likely to run into someone else at some point that has the same outfit.
When the new mall opened up here in Okinawa last year, everyone flocked to Old Navy, American Eagle and Forever21 because it is something new and because we are relatively limited to the BX for American sizing. What I’d like to gently point out that they are ALL mass produced products, just like at the BX, so was it any surprise that you showed up in line at the post office wearing the same romper as the gal in front of you? It’s not unique to you and you also didn’t buy it at the BX. I’m sure you get my point. (And that actually did happen to me)
So how do you overcome this problem? You create a look that’s YOURS! That’s it! It’s that simple. Unless you are buying a look directly off the mannequin, you will not look like anyone else. I assure you that it is not possible – you are uniquely you and that’s the beauty of it all.
Here are a few ways that I’ve put this to practice lately.
I could keep the pics coming, but I’m sure you get the point.
Not sure how to put your own spin on a look? I happen to know a gal who can help – haha! Really, don’t we ALL need a little help from time to time?
So maybe that’s glossing over it a bit, but let’s think about the pluses here. One of the reasons that so many of us love living overseas, and on an island in particular, is that our life is a lot more simple. We come around to the fact that fewer options sometimes cause less chaos in our lives. Remember that first trip back to the states when you found yourself standing in the produce department completely overwhelmed by the sheer number and variety of apples? Sometimes less is more and we need to put that into perspective.
Stateside gals, you’re not excluded from this conversation either. While there are more options stateside for shopping, the bottom line is just being you is all that it takes. YOU are amazing!