I’ve been so out of the loop recently and have put anything and everything pertaining to my business on hold during our transition back to the states. Moving across the world, at it’s best, can be a daunting process.
On the front end, there’s the stress of saying farewell to your best friends, watching all of your things packed up into a box and hoping that it will make it to the other side. Living like you are camping, for what seems an eternity, and leaving everything that seems familiar and like “home” to venture into the unknown.
On the back end, you go through the motions checking boxes of everything that needs to be done. Live like you’re camping for what seems an eternity (see a theme here?), Receive your household goods and then try to figure out how to make them fit in this new foreign territory. You also hemorrhage money like it’s your job – but I should save that for another post altogether.
Then there’s the REAL new beginning. You’ve hit the PSC Blues (permanent change of station) and just don’t feel like it’s in you to go out there. You’re tired, emotionally & physically drained, and it’s a very VERY lonely place.
It doesn’t matter how many times you’ve done it (this is lucky 13 for me) the feeling is always the same. Over time, it doesn’t get easier BUT the good news is that now, because of experience, we know it’s coming so are better prepared for when it hits.
We also know the reality is that friends don’t just come and knock on your door – you HAVE to get out there and make them! A welcome coffee, PTA, neighborhood meet-n-greet are just a few of the locations to scout out your next bestie. (Friend dating should also be another post…)
If you’ve moved from far away, you may not know what the dress code is for the event or even how people dress on the daily at your new locale. Wouldn’t it just be easier if they were specific? “you can wear jeans because everyone else will be” or “don’t even think about wearing jeans, we only wear dresses here, Missy”. Oh boy! My best fall back in these situations is a crisp pair of white jeans with heels. I say, confuse ’em. No one really can pin point if you’ve dressed appropriately AND you’ve hopefully been able to do some recon by the next gathering.
Snap of my OOTD post on Instagram
Wear something that you’re completely comfortable wearing both in fit AND in style. You don’t want to be tugging and pulling at things, paranoid that your skirt is too short or wondering if anyone can see through your blouse. The more comfortable you are, the more approachable you will be. Don’t think I didn’t tape the heck out of this blouse to keep it from slipping and sliding, but it works! (If you missed it, you can find what I say about it here!)
Jewelry Stella & Dot : celestial choker | wishing necklace | arrison stretch bracelet |artisan marquis cuff
Your shoes get a category of their own. Seriously, I’m not kidding. Wearing shoes that are too big, too small, too high, or rubs in the wrong place is just painful! Not only does it hurt your feet – particularly when you discover that this is an event where you’ll be on your feet the whole time, but not being able to walk without looking for something to hold on to is not a pretty look for anyone! My best tip is to wear a wedge in this instance. The heel height makes you appear to be longer and leaner and the wedge ensures balance if you find you’re hoofing it across a parade field.
Wear a conversation piece! By wearing something that is comment worthy, it invites people to speak to you when you might be a little intimidated about being a room full of strangers. It gives you the opportunity to talk about something you love and also sets the other person at ease because you’re not hitting on those awkward small talk topics like, you know, politics or religion.
This ring is one of my favorites! When I receive a compliment on it, I tell them that it was one of my favorite finds at the Marine Gift Shop in Okinawa. For me, that statement alone can have multiple spin offs to keep a conversation going or to prompt an introduction to someone else who might have lived there or might be going.
Put on that million dollar smile of yours! Nothing is more welcoming than a genuine smile. AND if you’re ready to dare…Nothing says confidence more than a woman wearing red lipstick – or in this case, poppy. I will say, however, if you are not used to wearing a bold lip, this isn’t the time to go for it.
While looking your best certainly feels good, you know you’ve nailed it when you FEEL your very best. I promise that will give you the confidence to open the doors to that ballroom and waltz right in with your Simply Sensational Style!
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